COMPATIBILITY OR CONFLICT?

What do you do when you’re with someone and later only realize that he/she is not the right person for you? It’s still okay if you’re just a couple without a knot. How about if you’re married? Are you going to divorce? This is a BIG problem!


What am I saying here that I and my partner are very different people. I concerned with what I can touch and feel. The world of real things, things that are tangible, is what I deal in. My partner seems to base his life on a philosophy of freedom, independence and spontaneity. On a very fundamental level, this doesn’t fit in with who I am. And my partner is not likely to give me the assurance and comfort that I need — his lifestyle is not as reliant on habit and structure as mine. Socially, I may find that his brash and direct manner grates on my nerves. And from the other side, my partner could find that I am a little stuck in my ways and a little immovable in my opinions. He tends to change rapidly and adapt easily, which will be hard work for me to keep up with, let alone copy. This constant adjustment is going to be a crucial factor in whether or not I can make this relationship work. Sometimes I thought to leave him but somehow my patient make me to stay and get to it — it will and really take time, and I guess that make my relationship stronger. But still I have something left from deep down in my heart I keep on asking myself ... “am I happy?”